I didn't do it....Rajuuuu?

Have you ever been in a situation where someone is holding you accountable for something. It maybe a college assignment or and office project or even at home?. Instead of accepting the mistake, the very next moment you started blaming other people who were not really responsible for it.

The most ironical example is that when the government implemented a lockdown in the whole country due to Covid-19 pandemic and requested the people to maintain social distancing, chunks of people would sit down together all day and blame the government for the rise in Covid-19 cases.

"It's always easy to blame others, you can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your success and failures entirely your own responsibility"

What is a BLAME GAME?

The Blame game is a situation in which different individuals of groups attempt to assign blame to each other for some problem or failure.

When something goes wrong and we feel threatened, it's natural to defend ourselves against any repercussions. We might find ourselves trying to shift the blame elsewhere. We may try to distance ourselves from a problem, fearing that taking responsibility for our errors or mistakes could harm our image in the society and make us look bad.

"Incapable of being a blacksmith, you blame the metal"

But this approach doesn't solve anything. Shifting the blame won't do any good to you, it won't help to rectify that mistake and the situation will be worse if someone or the other finds out later that it was solely your mistake.

Blaming gives us some semblance of control. Blame is simply discharging of discomfort, pain and anger, it has an inverse relationship with accountability. People who blame a lot  seldom have the tenacity and grit to actually hold people accountable, because we spent all of our energy raging for 15 seconds and figuring out whose fault something is. Blaming is very corrosive in relationships and it is one of the reasons we miss our opportunity for empathy. Because when something happens and we are hearing a story, we are not really listening, we are in a place where we try to make a connection as quickly as we can about whose fault something was.

"When you blame others, you give up your power to change"

Blaming others can have a detrimental effect on morale and performance. People may be humiliated if they are pinpointed for blame, especially if it's not their fault. If the person gets away after blaming others, a new culture will arise, where people would not take responsibility for their actions and will always try to blame others for mistakes.

Don't blame others for your mistakes, the temptation is huge to point your finger elsewhere when you make a mistake. Resist it. Not only can you gain a lot of respect from others but also you can stop a bad culture from emerging. Set an example to other by accepting your mistakes and make sure to highlight the part where you learn from your mistakes. Mistakes are very normal and everyone does it, make sure to not blame it on others.

"Everything you do is based at the choices you make. It's not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather or an argument. You and only you are responsible for the choices you make."

Thank you for reading :)

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