"He loves me, he loves me not....."

It happened suddenly, the moment you met them, you knew that your life will never be the same again and your heart soars every time you look at them, you stay awake at night thinking about them, you can't focus on anything else and you spend every hour day dreaming about them. You all know that feeling. The butterflies in your stomach. Fantasies about being forever. "Chand Sifarish" playing in the background every time you meet them.

 Is it Love or it is just a Crush?

LOVE and INFATUATION are both intense emotions that one feels for another person. These feelings are often confused by most people. Infatuation is a state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of the relationship when sexual attraction is central. Love can be described as the feeling of intense affection for another person. It is most often talked about as an emotion between two .

Infatuation, mostly confused with love, is often filled with sexual desires, we glorify or idealize our partner rather than seeing them for who they are, and in fact we see them as who we want them to be. You are always impressed by everything your partner does or says and in fact it doesn't even matter. By imagining a fake and unrealistic identity of our partner in our minds, we create false expectations towards the and as time goes on in a relationship, whose foundation is built on false expectations, those same behavior, those exact same behavior, becomes annoying and irritating to you and at that point of time you begin to the other person for who they really are and find faults in everything they do.

At the start of a relationship, both are often on their best behavior, both wear their best clothes around each other and actually hide what they think is the 'unlovable' part of themselves.

In contrast to infatuation, true love invites honesty and authenticity. You can't truly love someone without knowing their core essence, what makes them tick, their hopes and dreams for the future, the passion in their heart and value that makes them what they truly are. Most relationships start with infatuation, when two people initially meet, physical attraction and powerful chemicals can actually impede any real authentic connection.

True love entails being comfortable and completely yourself with another human being and being accepted without judgement.Love is a two-way street. You accept the person spiritually,emotionally,mentally, and physically for who they are. Outer appearance won't even matter after you attain true love but most people have a hard time transitioning from the lovely infatuation phase at the start of the relationship to the true love connection.

"Love is not blind, infatuation is blind. Love is all-seeing and still accepting"- Anamika Mishra

Can Infatuation become true love?

Couples go through a hard time from transitioning from infatuation to real true love bond and most of them give up in between because it becomes difficult to accept the real person rather than the perfect person that we have imagined. But the transition is possible; give your relationship time - not everything happens miraculously overnight. Communication becomes the key factor to save the relationship at that point of time but overall, a sense of commitment to the relationship will create the attachment needed to fall in love.

If your relationship survives the test of time, the veil of love's illusion will be lifted. You will begin to see the person more clearly in front of you. Sometimes we fall in love with somebody's potential, holding the space for them to step into a more evolved and 'better' version of themselves. Our partners may indeed change over time but expecting somebody to change as a condition of your love is never a good idea.To truly love your partner is to truly love for who they are right now. Everyone in this damn world has imperfections, but it is our duty to accept the flaws in one another, hold the hand of each other and go out and fight the cruel world instead of fighting among yourselves. 

"Infatuation cannot be sustained indefinitely, my friend. Love that embraces the entire person is a monumental gift that takes time to grow" - Joan Bauer

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